Questions And Answers: Emotions / Anger

How do we remain calm in provoking situation and not react? I usually try not to get affected by what someone is saying, but end up reacting or saying something and that I regret later.
Questioner: Devotee
Date: 2024-02-19
Jayapatākā Swami: All the vices can be dovetailed in Kṛṣṇa’s service except envy.
So we can be angry when Kṛṣṇa is offended,
when the devotee is offended.
But if someone, in some disturbing situation,
hampering their sense gratification,
they should not get angry.
If they get angry it is a vice, a mistake and sinful.
Like that we could angry for the right reason,
otherwise we should be tolerant.
Category: [Anarthās], [Emotions / Anger]
How to overcome attachment, fear and anger?
Questioner: Haridhvani devī dāsī
Date: 2022-10-17
Jayapatākā Swami: Attachment, fear, and anger, how to overcome? There is a verse of this in the Bhagavad-gītā 
and some advice is given there. 
But in a nutshell, we want to dovetail everything with Kṛṣṇa consciousness. 
Instead of being attached to the material world, we are more attached to Kṛṣṇa and His service. 
An anger instead of being angry because our ego is pinched 
or because someone is not giving us the sense gratification we want, 
or because someone is criticizing us unnecessarily, 
unconstructively, 
then if we get angry that is material. 
But if someone offends a devotee or Kṛṣṇa; if we get angry
that’s Kṛṣṇa conscious. 
So anger, we try to use it for the right reason and anger for the wrong reason, we renounce. 
And since Kṛṣṇa promises He will protect His devotees, 
na me bhaktaḥ praṇaśyati [Bg 9.31] 
My devotee will never be destroyed. 
So why should we have any fear? 
Fear is the part of the material world, 
and fear means that we take it as a caution. 
But we don’t actually fear absolutely because we can depend on the mercy and protection of Kṛṣṇa. 
But if He tells us in our mind, that going to this place is dangerous now, 
we take that also as a warning by Kṛṣṇa. 
Category: [Emotions], [Emotions / Anger], [Sādhanā / Philosophical questions]
I have become very disturbed in provoking or negative situation. How to remain undisturbed and to be firm in Kṛṣṇa consciousness, in spite of these? Please help.
Questioner: Harihara Kṛṣṇa Caitanya dāsa
Date: 2023-07-07
Jayapatākā Swami: In the material world there are always provoking situations.
Therefore, it is said we should take shelter at the lotus feet of Lord Kṛṣṇa,
or taking the shelter of the spiritual master who is Kṛṣṇa’s representative.
If we practice this, then naturally we can become firm.
Category: [Emotions / Anger], [Sādhanā]
Normally we tend to remain calm, but when provoked, our undesirable qualities manifest and we get implicated in offenses. How to avoid this?
Questioner: Tattvavit Nimāi das
Date: 2022-10-12
Jayapatākā Swami: A devotee can stay very calm in an undisturbed situation.
Kaṁsa was very calm and serene, driving the chariot of his sister on her wedding.
Then this voice came from the sky, your sister’s eight son will kill you.
Immediately he became disturbed, he grabbed his sister by the hair and wanted to kill her.
So, we should not be like Kaṁsa.
There will be some disturbing situations.
These are tests.
If we are like Kaṁsa, we will get disturbed.
If we are devotees, we control ourselves, like Vasudeva.
He tried to convince Kaṁsa, that it is not good to kill your sister on her wedding day.
It is said, you should take decisions when you have a cool head.
So that was a very disturbing situation, his wife is being killed!
But he tried to pacify Kaṁsa.
So like that we should try to control ourselves, if we are agitated.
Everything is calm, no trouble to be calm.
The test is when things get disturbed.
At that time if we can control our emotions and think very deeply,
and do things that are most pleasing to guru and Kṛṣṇa.
And pass the test.
Haribol!
Category: [Anarthās], [Aparādha (Offenses) / Vaiṣṇava-aparādha], [Emotions / Anger], [Emotions / Envy], [Vaiṣṇava Dealings], [Vaiṣṇava Dealings / Etiquette / Sadācāra]
When I go for book distribution sometimes people say you are selling books and this is an ISKCON business. Then I get offended and sometimes get angry too. What should I do in such a situation?
Questioner: Anon
Date: 2022-08-01
Jayapatākā Swami: Why should you feel bad?
Jayapatākā Swami: If we go to print books we cannot do that for free right?
There is a price for the paper, price for printing.
Compared to many other books, the price of our books is much less.
If you go to other book stalls, the price of the books are Rs. 300, 400 or 500.
Our Bhagavad-gītā is Rs.150 or so, in Bangladesh probably Rs. 100 or 200.
We see that we do not take much profit.
Now, if you can get it printed for free, then we can also distribute them for free. You can say that.
Category: [Sādhanā / Book distribution], [Emotions / Anger], [Emotions]
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